#JustIntrovertThings

If you didn’t know this already, I’m a bit of an introvert. And I, like my introvert pals, sometimes do things that don’t make sense to other people. Socially unusual things. They are easy to misinterpret. I’m pretty sure people frequently get the wrong idea. So here’s a basic guide to weird things we do. I’ll phrase them in first person since some I’m not sure if they are just me or many introverts like me.

  • When I don’t smile when passing you by, it usually says nothing about my mood or feelings about you. In fact, quite often it means I’ve failed to decide whether it would be socially appropriate to smile at that moment in time to actually do it.
  • If I don’t say much during small talk, it’s not necessarily because I don’t want to interact with you, but that I don’t get small talk. Polite dialogue consisting of generic questions is something I know has little actual meaning, so it’s hard to invest in it. Now, if you bring up any specific topic on which I have anything at all to say, good luck shutting me up.
  • I usually won’t say “hi” first, mainly because unless I really consider you a friend, I assume my initiating conversation will be the wrong move to make for whatever relationship we do have (coworker, acquaintance, etc).
  • Social interaction can be exhausting, while still enjoyable. It’s kind of like swimming or walking. Sure, it can be fun, but I’ll be tired and want to go home and relax afterwards.

This is only a pretty short list, but these things are issues I wish everyone understood about me to begin with, since I know it’s so easy to give a wrong impression with them.

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Greet ’em All: The Introvert’s Worst Bible Verse

And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing out of the ordinary? Don’t even the Gentiles do the same?

Matthew 5:47

Just sayin’, as an introvert this verse pretty well stinks. I mean, really. If there’s anything we’re bad at, it’s greeting people. And if there’s anyone we’re uncomfortable greeting, it’s people we’re not already friends with. Yet this goes along in Scripture with Jesus saying “Love your enemies” and all that jazz. So if we’re going to take Him seriously on that, we also need to take Him seriously on this. As if that weren’t rough enough, “greet” doesn’t just mean “hi.” It’s a much more hospitable and genuine exchange of good will and concern. It’s kind of like small talk (enough of a menace to we introverts), but even worse because it requires that we gather genuine interest in people with whom we’re not already comfortable.

So, basically, Jesus just kicked us all were it hurts. Even extraverts. How many of you guys are quick to give people outside of your usual circles such a warm interaction, even someone as heathen and culturally different to you as a Gentile to a Jew? This, then, is an incredibly difficult task.

All I can say is thank God for the Holy Spirit, and I pray for His power to enable me to love genuinely, even in small matters with strangers.

Greet ’em All: The Introvert’s Worst Bible Verse